Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Other People

My main source of info regarding hair is a blog called Healthy Textures by a woman named Marchrieamour (lol Steve Wonder, love that song).  Anywho, today she posted for ppl to comment about how friends and family react to their hair journey and goals. I read most of the comments, and it is amazing how many people are negative.

This posting is semi hair related, but not really. As I talked about in previous postings, I had a crisis with my hair and had to get it cut. I was highly highly HIGHLY upset about this, and I cried for about 2 days. When I went to people for support or advice, some reacted as if I was completely stupid for being so upset. I am not a self-absorbed person, but when my hair does not look good I feel very self- conscious. It hurt me a lot when I spoke to ppl who just said things like "you are overreacting" " it is not that serious" and things along that line. These were not random people but people I considered to be close friends. I am not saying they should have cared about my hair, however, they should care that I am upset.

So, it did not surprise me that there were negative comments....I just did not expect so many. Like I have a lot of new goals, and when I have goals, I like to share then. Hair related (or not) it is very unsettling when people you consider close to you react negatively.

A lot of the comments included "just go to a salon". From experience, salons are not always best. Also, as someone who once paid $55 a month to get my hair done at a salon., paying 14 every few for a trimming, 7 for a relaxer, and maybe every 6 months or so getting new moisturizers, shampoos, conditioners, etc......I am fairly sure that doing it yourself HIGHLY outweighs the cost. Maybe they have that extra income....salons are not reliable. Stylists are ppl, ppl are not perfect.....ppl have nasty attitudes. 

I don't see why you would not support someone who takes time to take care of their own hair. IT IS NOT YOUR TIME AND ENERGY GOING INTO IT! 

Unfortunately we live in a world with negative ppl around us. That is one reason why I started my blog. It gives me a way to stay accountable and positive about my goals.


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